Mommy D's Letter to Us

We finally received the letter Mommy D had written to us.  It was a sad and sweet note all wrapped up into one.  Part of her letter said:

I thank God for you and for you giving my son such a good life and siblings to love him....  

I love you.  

I'm trying guys!  I know you get disappointed in me but keep praying for me.

This is such a sweet letter that I will definitely be keeping for Jaydon for his scrapbook.  Along with this sweet note was a list of items that she was saying she would need once she gets out of jail.  Even though she wasn't specifically asking for money she was asking for help.  We pray for this special lady that she will someday see that she can't accomplish overcoming her addictions without Jesus in her life.  She wants to try so badly and it has to be frustrating for her as she continually looks for love and acceptance.

We have also been mentioning that we had thought we had found one of Jaydon's sisters.  After the frustration of not being able to respond back on facebook to the adoptive mother, the social worker we had been in touch with was able to give us a name of an attorney that would have contact with this family.  After calling this attorney, we were able to get the information we needed to connect with this other adoptive family.  It is confirmed.....we now know where one of Jaydon's sisters is and the adoptive mother would like to talk with us more!  Please be in prayer as we take the next steps in trying to connect Jaydon with his sister!  I think it is so neat how two siblings, born to a mother who struggled with addictions, have been placed with two different families, who will not only teach her children about Jesus but will also be able to connect with each other.  God is so good!! 

Thank you to all of you who have been asking us questions and showing concern.  We also appreciate all of your prayers!

Update on Jaydon's Birth Family Situation

Well its been a few weeks since I posted about the developments with Mommy D.  We mentioned that she had wanted us to contact her and so we did and the letter was given to her by the social worker.  We suspected two reasons as to why she would want to contact us.  One of the reasons has been ruled out.  When the social worker called she said that she suspected Mommy D might be pregnant.  Because we have Jaydon, we would be considered next of kin and therefore, she asked if we would consider taking this baby as well if it should turn out that she was pregnant!  Wow!  What a lot of soul searching we had to do, as this was not something we had been seeking out.  After praying about it and talking about it, we felt that God was leading us to at least pursue this option and get more information should she indeed be pregnant.  This was I think the big reason that the social worker wanted us to respond to Mommy D's request for communication so that if she was pregnant, she might tell us.  However, after the social worker's next visit, she no longer suspected that Mommy D was pregnant.  Believe it or not, this is a relief, but also a disappointment.  Part of me wonders why God allowed her to say anything to us when she wasn't sure of anything.  Perhaps God was just wanting to see if we would be willing to do something that wasn't a part of "our" plan??

The social worker said that Mommy D had written us a letter back on her pad of paper and that she would get that to us.  This has been 1 1/2 - 2 weeks ago, and we still are waiting on this letter.  So we still do not know why she wanted us to communicate with her.

Another thing we mentioned in the last blog post is that we believe we have found one of Jaydon's siblings.  After giving up hope of not making a connection with the adoptive family, after a few attempts to make that connection, I received a message on facebook yesterday from the adoptive mother saying that she would like to make contact.  I was so excited!!!!  However, that excitement quickly turned to frustration today when I went to pull up that message that she sent me.  Facebook will not let me respond!!!  She must have changed her privacy settings or something because now I can't even find her profile on facebook. :/  So.....I am trying to find a way to make that connection become re-established to see if we can finally "get together".

Also, there is a hurting family that we love dearly that we have been helping recently.  The Lord knows their situation, but please join us in praying for them and that hurting hearts will be healed!

Thanks for praying!

Jaydon's Birth Story Continues to Develop

Its been quite awhile since I have last posted.  The kids have gotten into their regular routines with school and for the most part loving it!  Anne has been busy going to practices for the musical she will be participating in at the end of March.  We are so excited for this opportunity for her and can't wait to see her perform.  Adia continues to do well with her reading.  Jonathan is continuing to take speech therapy.  Jaydon continues to grow in every way into a little boy!

Our life had been going along pretty "normally" when all of a sudden we received a phone call around 9:30 p.m., on Friday from one of the social workers we had worked with on our adoption journey to Jaydon.  Turns out this social worker also worked with Mommy D for some of her previous pregnancies.  When I saw the number on caller id., I just knew it had to be about Mommy D.  Talk about all the thoughts that went through my mind at that point!  This social worker had gone to visit Mommy D, who is in jail last week and Mommy D had requested that she get in touch with us and ask us to write to her while she was in jail.  We don't know why she is asking us to write to her, but we have chosen to go ahead and communicate with her, as the social worker encouraged us to do so.  However, we "wrote" a note and then emailed it to the social worker so that when she goes back to visit Mommy D this week, that she can take the note with her.  We don't know why she is asking us to communicate with her as its been 15 months since we have last seen or heard from her, but after talking with the social worker we do have a couple of possible ideas as to what she might be wanting.  If it is because of what we are thinking, we will need all the prayers we can get for wisdom as we will have to make some decisions.  I'll update you more, when I know more.  Hopefully after the visit this week, which I believe could take place on Wednesday, hopefully we will have a clearer picture as to what is going on in her life.

Not only is this news causing us a lot of thought, but after talking with the social worker who was describing another adoptive couple who had another one of Mommy D's children, we put two and two together and figured out who that adoptive couple is.  Jaydon has a sister that is living in a Christian home not very far away!!  That is just so exciting for me, that we have been able to put together at least a little bit of his family history for him for when he is older.  I didn't think we would ever find out where any of his siblings were living.  It turns out that the adoptive father that has Jaydon's sister, is someone with whom I went to school.  Now I am trying to reach out to the adoptive family to see if we can make a connection!  So far, this isn't going very smoothly as I am trying to reach out to the adoptive mom, and she doesn't have a clue who I am.  So I am going to try a couple of more ideas that we have and then I may just have to drop the search as I don't want the adoptive family to think I am trying to stir up trouble or stalk them.  Please pray for wisdom in this area!  I so badly want to make a connection with this family for Jaydon's sake, but I also want to stop pushing if God is closing the door to make that happen.  Either way, we have come away with valuable information for Jaydon so that if nothing comes of this, he should have some information to search with when he is older.

My mind has been in a whirlwind since that phone call, and I am trying to not be anxiously awaiting the phone call from the social worker with an update after her visit with Mommy D.

As for Adia, she has been asking a lot more questions about her birth family lately, which is only natural and to be expected.  She wanted to send her birth mother a valentine, so we chose to go ahead and let her do that.  So far, we have not received a response back, and Adia is wondering why she hasn't heard anything.  So please pray for us as we deal with this and how to cautiously approach how much communication there will be in the future.  We want to take "forward" moving steps only when all parties are ready for the next step!

Thanks for praying!